Dating is one of the most trendy topics amongst youths and adolescents of the 21st century. I did a mini-survey using my friends both those whom I interact with physically and those whom our interaction is on social media and I came up with the following conclusions;
About 70% of youths and adolescents are either dating or have dated before.
25% are seriously considering dating and are just held back by a lack of opportunity and fear.
The remaining 5% are either not interested or are less concerned about dating.
Mind you, these statistics are exclusive to me, myself and I. I just ran a random research which proved to me that the topic dating is a trending one amongst youths today.
Well, like every other issue of life, without a proper, good and concise knowledge of what dating should be about, we would be dating wrongly and amiss leading to serious pains and regrets.
Many youths dabble into dating because they feel a need to do so others date because everyone seems to be dating some still date because they want to have "fun". All of these are wrong motivations for dating.
Whether you are already dating, about to or not interested in it yet, you must understand that there is an important prerequisite for dating which must be met before dating can be done appropriately.
If this prerequisite is not met and established then there's no point dating because it would just be a waste of time.
We have made so much fuss about dating but I bet that a minute number of youths can accurately define what dating is.
So, what really is dating?
Dating is a form of romantic courtship typically between two individuals with the aim of assessing the other's suitability as a partner.
It is a system used to determine how suitable a member of the opposite sex is for marriage.
The word "courtship" which is used in my first definition is the art of soliciting or begging for a woman's hand in marriage.
And this leads us to what the foremost prerequisite for dating is.
The first phenomenon which must be in place before you begin to date is marriage readiness.
If you are not ready for marriage then you are not ready for dating. Dating is not just a romantic affair as many youths see it but a romantic courtship. Courtship implying that marriage should be the intention for dating.
Dating is not for frolicking but the first step in the process of getting married. It is a system for getting to know your partner before you both tie the knots. The intention of dating is not for funfare but marraigefare.
As against the believed concept of dating which sees dating as a platform for just hanging out and having fun with a member of the opposite sex, dating is actually the first step to getting married. It iniates the marriage process.
If dating initiates marriage processes why date when you are not planning on getting married? If dating is a form of romantic courtship to test the suitability of a partner of what use is it when you are not ready for marriage?
The world system would encourage dating at whatever stage and age but as believers we must not be conformed to the system of dating which the world advocates. We are not of this world therefore we must not be ruled and governed by the system the world advocates.
There's no point dating if you are not ready for marriage. The first phenomenon you must establish correctly before you begin dating is "how ready are you for marriage?".
Ask yourself the following questions;
• Are you ready for marriage?
• Can you get married to the person you want to date?
• Will you get married to the person you are dating, should in case you are already dating?
• Can you spend the rest of your life with the person you want to date?
• Do you see an enviable future with the person you want to date?
• Will you be willing to let go of your will and desires for the happiness and joy of the person you want to date?
Until you are able to sincerely answer the above questions positively then I advise that you delay your entry into dating.
Dating is useless unless you are marriage-ready!!
Do not venture into something you would live on to regret. Be ready for marriage before you think about dating.